125 Conversation Starters for Future/Current Spouses

February 23, 2023


  1. If you could have any exotic pet, what would it be?
  2. If you could never have to do one household chore again, what would it be?
  3. How long would you last in a zombie apocalypse?
  4. If you built a themed hotel, what would the hotel look like?
  5. Share a funny dad joke?
  6. What would your superhero name + power be?
  7. What is the most wild story you’ve heard?
  8. What did you want to be growing up?
  9. What do you enjoy doing with me?
  10. What is the craziest fact you’ve heard?

  11. What is your love language? If you don’t know, take the online test!
  12. What is your favorite way to show affection?
  13. What is your favorite type of romantic gesture?
  14. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
  15. How much alone time and together time do we each need?
  16. What is one way I can let you know that I cherish you during the coming week?
  17. What are some ways that I can more effectively show that I love you?
  18. What is your enneagram? If you don’t know, take the online test.

  19. What are three important personal values that you have?
  20. What is a Bible verse that is significant in your life?
  21. How would you define grace?
  22. How can we give grace to each other and those around us?
  23. How can we put God first in our relationship?
  24. Talk about how you can keep each other accountable and challenge each other.
  25. In what ways do you feel blessed in our marriage?
  26. What is one thing the Lord has been teaching you lately?
  27. What is a particular church sermon that has been especially meaningful to you?
  28. Are we tithing? What are other ways we can give back to the church whether it’s time or money?
  29. Can we volunteer together somewhere? (Serving food to the homeless, donating items to a shelter, going on a mission trip, church greeter, hosting a Bible Study, etc.)
  30. What do you feel called to?
  31. How can I pray for you this week?
  32. How can we love each other and others more like Jesus?

  33. How do we want to keep up relationships with our friends? (Bible study, game nights, go out to eat, etc.)
  34. What is a hobby you want to start doing more?
  35. Describe your dream vacation down to the smallest detail.
  36. Name your top three movies?
  37. What makes you laugh?
  38. What is your favorite birthday activity as an adult?
  39. What is one candy that you never get tired of eating?
  40. What is a pet peeve you have?
  41. What is a funny/weird dream you remember having?
  42. What’s the last dream you had?
  43. If someone gave you enough money to start a business of your own, what business would you start?
  44. What is one fun thing you would buy for yourself if you won the lottery?
  45. If you could have one skill that you don’t currently have, what would it be?
  46. What are four things on your bucket list?
  47. Name someone who made a huge impact on your life and how?
  48. How are you feeling emotionally?
  49. How have you been feeling at your job lately? Is that where you want to be in five years?
  50. What fears do you wrestle with the most? How can I be there for you better in that area?
  51. How have you grown throughout the past couple years?
  52. What is one way you want to grow this year?
  53. What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever been through?
  54. What make you feel the most peaceful?
  55. Besides your wedding day, any births, etc, name one good day that you’ll always remember.
  56. What is something you like about yourself?
  57. What is the next thing you want to accomplish in life?

  58. What is your earliest memory?
  59. What was your childhood like?
  60. What was your favorite TV show as a kid?
  61. Sing a throwback song from your high school years.
  62. What’s an embarrassing moment from when you were younger?
  63. What was your favorite dance as a kid? Show it to your spouse.
  64. What family traditions did you have growing up?
  65. What is a tradition you love that we do?
  66. What new tradition would you like to start with our family?
  67. How did you family deal with disagreements/arguments?
  68. How do you want to deal with disagreements/arguments in our family?

  69. How many kids do you want to have?
  70. What is something that you have learned from having kids?
  71. What are three new ways we can have fun as a family this month?
  72. How can we encourage each other and our kids to live a balanced life with physical health/wellness?
  73. How can we better teach our kids what healthy communication in a relationship looks like?
  74. How should we discipline our kids?
  75. How can we better split parenting duties?
  76. Answer for the other person: What’s one good thing each of the kids got from mom? from dad?
  77. What do you think our children will grow up to be based on their current personalities?
  78. What is something that you want to teach our children?

  79. What is your favorite place in our home?
  80. How do we want to split household chores?
  81. What are some positive goals we can set for our marriage?
  82. How can we give back to those in need?
  83. What is one thing you’ve learned from your spouse?
  84. How often do you want to go on dates?
  85. What is one great physical feature on your spouse?
  86. What is one great characteristics about your spouse?
  87. What was your favorite characteristic of your spouse when you first met them?
  88. What’s one thing I can do to improve our relationship?
  89. What do you need to feel loved + appreciated?
  90. How can I help you when you’re angry?
  91. What steps can we take to be on our phones less?
  92. Is there something I do that hurts your feeling? How can I do better in that area?
  93. What is something that you are struggling with currently? How can I help you?
  94. What steps can we take to ensure that we stay close as a couple emotionally, physically, and spiritually?
  95. How do you want to go about saving money?
  96. What is a hobby that we can do together?
  97. What is the silliest moment you remember throughout dating?
  98. What is one thing I can do to make your day better when I see you after work?
  99. What does marriage mean to you?
  100. What is one way we can improve our sex life?
  101. What’s a happy memory of us together?
  102. What’s the most romantic thing I’ve ever done for you?
  103. When do you feel most loved by me?
  104. What qualities do you see as essential in a friend?
  105. How can we become better friends?
  106. Do we make each other better people?
  107. Have we avoid falling into just acting like roommates?
  108. How can we keep things fresh?
  109. What is a series you want to watch together?
  110. Tell a funny story from our wedding day?
  111. What’s something I do that makes you laugh?
  112. What’s one thing you like about your spouse’s personality?
  113. How do I treat others?
  114. Where do we want to end up living?
  115. What’s your favorite outfit that I wear?
  116. What’s your version of our love story?
  117. What is the best gift I’ve ever given to you?
  118. What’s your favorite nickname?
  119. Do we want a pet? What kind? What would we name him/her?
  120. What is your favorite meal that I make?
  121. When is the last time you laughed super hard because of something your spouse did/said?
  122. Make a personal goal for the next month?
  123. What are three things you find attractive about your spouse?
  124. Ask me a question that you’ve never asked me?
  125. What is one thing you learned about me tonight that you didn’t know before?


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